Inner beauty Vs Outer beauty

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Inner beauty Vs Outer beauty

An acid attack survivor

“Work on your character and let it define your looks.” – Preeti Shashank

If we ask most people what they find beautiful about a person, many of them probably begin to describe someone’s physical characteristics. It usually goes like this; I like big eyes, silky hair, pretty face, slim body, tones muscles and so on and there is nothing wrong in it. Rarely do you hear someone saying what makes someone beautiful is their confidence, courage, generosity, kindness, honesty and so on which is beautiful in itself.

The difference in the perspective mentioned above reminds me of the famous line by Audrey Hepburn. She said in an interview that “For having lovely eyes, seek out the good in other people, For having a slim figure, share your food with the hungry, For having a beautiful hair, let a child run his fingers through it.

I am sure we understand the perspective of Audrey Hepburn, but trying to act so delicate and sophisticated makes us forget these little things that will enhance our beauty.

“Beauty is not in the face, beauty is a light in the heart.” – Preeti Shashank

What is beauty?

Trying to answer this question in words will itself lose the meaning and I would not be able to do justice to the definition of beauty with my writing.

Because it is something which can neither be written nor spoken it can just be felt and experienced.

Humankind has always been puzzled at the definition of beauty because there can’t be a universal answer. What is beautiful for someone may be ugly for others and vice versa.

We need to understand and accept this fact that if we can’t define and agree on one definition for beauty then why do we fall prey to the beauty standard set by the society and cosmetics industry?

Each one of us is beautiful as we are and we must understand this.

What is inner beauty?

Inner beauty means being a good person with worthy characters like honesty, kindness etc.

Many people think inner beauty is just a phrase used for ugly people to make them feel better of themselves and compensate for their societal shortcomings of beauty standards. People who think like this, are hugely mistaken.

Not all people who have inner beauty are ugly, having inner beauty also manifests in the external beauty. The converse also holds, not all ugly people have inner beauty, some are miserable even from inside too.

Marylin Monroe

“The best part of beauty is that which cant be expressed in
pictures/words.” – Preeti Shashank

What is outer beauty?

Just as inner beauty talks about the characteristics of the person, we can loosely say that outer beauty deals with the looks and appearances of a person.

Outer beauty has several components and each of them is present in some of the people, there are always exceptions who are just beautiful head to toe. The components included in this scale of beauty are eyes, hairs, face, lips, chin, body etc. In a nutshell, the external appearance.

Often it is mistaken that people who look beautiful and flaunt their beauty might not be beautiful from inside. But this is not always the case. I have met people in my life who are good outside as well as inside. Again, as I said earlier, outer beauty is the manifestation of what is inside.

Just a reminder here, we need to be very delicate with the above mentioned definitions. Because the definitions sound very simple and precise, but it is not, because who decides who is ugly and who is beautiful. At last, it entirely depends on the observes as it is profoundly said “Beauty lies in the eyes of Beholder” and I firmly believe in it.

How to differentiate between inner and outer beauty?

If you ask me for a one-liner, I will say “Outer beauty is how a person looks and Inner beauty is how a person is.”

Trying to differentiate the two does not mean I am asking you to choose one, because I am not. Both are equally important and you must try to keep them both in check.

But we must begin our journey within because as I have been saying inner beauty manifests the outer beauty.

An acid attack survivor on a ramp.

“A person who accepts his/her outer beauty has true inner beauty. – Preeti Shashank

How to enhance inner beauty?

Well, honestly there is no such step by step guide to enhancing your inner beauty. Although there are some aspects which play a crucial role in enhancing our inner beauty. And we must make efforts to keep them in check. Some of them are:

  1. Kindness – Just be kind to anyone and everyone possible without expecting anything in return.
  2. Gentleness – It is often being misunderstood as being weak, but on the contrary, it is strong who is gentle because the weak are always angry & furious.
  3. Purity – Having a pure heart and expressing the same in front of others is necessary, it means speaking out your heart.
  4. Generosity – It is a part of being humble and good to others. Humble people are generally generous.
  5. Honesty – “Honesty is the Best Policy”, it is probably the first moral lesson we learnt right from our infancy and it holds very true till now.
  6. Commitment – Keeping your word, makes you trustworthy and you must be a person of your words.
  7. Love yourself – You are more than just your looks and body. Be your face of the day.
  8. Positive face – Have a charming and confident look, always try to keep up a happy face.
  9. Positive thoughts – Eliminate negativity from your life and keep yourself surrounded by good vibes only.
  10. Nourish your relationships/friendships – Keep your friends and family members intact.

We need to reduce the amount of time we spend on enhancing our physical appearance and also cut down the budget for cosmetics (they are generally too expensive). Instead, we must spend more time on developing ourselves being focussed on our careers and skills. We must spend more time with our friends and family to strengthen our relationship with our closed ones.

Laxmi Agarwal with her husband.

“No matter how a woman looks, if truth and honesty are written across her face,
she will be beautiful.” – Preeti Shashank

How do we judge correctly between inner and outer beauty?

Well, after all this, some will say that there is no logic behind inner beauty and it is something we cannot contemplate. The argument they present is that anyone can fake their gentleness, honesty and kindness in front of another person to deceive them.

To support their argument, these people say sugar-coating your conversation and faking your gestures will make the other person conclude that you are beautiful intrinsically as well.

To this argument, my response is Yes, it is correct and all the facts presented to justify the statement is on point. But hold on a second, how long will the person fake their characteristics and their communication skills in front of you. Yes, it is acceptable that you might be deceived a couple of times, but that won’t last long and you will come across the truth some or the other day.

So-called beauty standards bombard us with stress, negativity, displeasure and discontent feelings throughout our life. Keeping physical appearance on the top of the priority list shows that we are not trying to improve ourselves as a good human being.

A girl with a mirror

“Mirrors never show what is inside us.” – Preeti Shashank


On a concluding note, I can only say that a person who accepts his/her outer beauty (looks and appearances) can be said to possess inner beauty. It won’t be wrong if I said that outer beauty is the manifestation of inner beauty.
A person with inner beauty will be charming and beautiful possessing outer beauty, but the converse is not always true.
Define your character and let it define your looks.

Thank you

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