Anger Management: Causes, Effects and Solutions2020-07-27 8:54
Anger Management: Causes, Effects and Solutions
Anger Management: Causes, Effects and Solutions
To make you comfortable and set the plot for the article I would like to present a story. The story goes like – “A man was polishing his new car, and at the same time his 4-year-old son picked up a stone and scratched a line on the other side of the car. Angered by this incident his father started hitting his child’s fingers not realising that he was hit with a wrench. suddenly he saw the kid in a painful state and rushed him to the hospital but the child had almost lost his fingers and he asked his father in an innocent manner “Dad when will my fingers grow back?” The man was hurtless and speechless at the moment. As he saw LOVE U DAD scratched on the car, he was devastated and he committed suicide the next day. Anger and Love have no limits. Hence always chose the latter, because things are too used and people are to be loved but today it is the opposite”.
American Psychological Association defines Anger as “An emotion characterised by antagonism towards someone or something you feel has deliberately done you wrong”. Anger can be a good thing at times it can give you a way to express negative feelings, or motivate you to find solutions to problems. But excessive anger can cause problems. Increased blood pressure and other physical changes with anger make it difficult to think straight and your physical and mental strength.
Anger management programs consider anger to be a motivation caused by an identifiable reason which can be logically analyzed and if suitable worked towards.
At times anger can also be a defensive response to underlying fear or feelings of vulnerability or powerlessness.
What is Anger Management?
Anger management is a psycho-therapeutic program for anger protection and control. it has been described as deploying anger successfully. Anger is frequently a result of frustration, or of feeling blocked or thwarted from something the subject feels important. The goal of anger management is to reduce both your emotional feelings and the physiological arousal that anger causes.
We need to admit that Anger is completely normal, it is human emotion. Anger is destructive only when it gets out of your control.
“Control your anger and you control your relations”. – Preeti Shashank
Root Causes of Anger
Generally, every form of emotion can be a reason to prompt anger in anyone which is known as Anger Masking and some of such emotions are Sadness, Disappointment, Guilt, Fear, Frustration, Worry, Embarrassment, Jealousy, Hurt, Anxiety, Shame. But if I could categorise then I would categorise the events that lead to anger in three categories: Childhood and Upbringing, Past, Present
- Childhood and Upbringing
- Genetics (if the parent had anger issues)
- Poor family conditions
- Family arguments in childhood
- ADHD and Bipolar Disorder
- Traumatic Memory of the past
- Past experiences
- Attacked or threatened
- Deceived and disrespected
- Guilt or Disappointment
- Breakup in relations
- Current Circumstances
- Stress and Depression
- Financial Problems
- Personal Problems
- Unable to complete the desired task
- Poked by someone else
Negative Effects of anger
Increased heart rate and increased stroke rate: Chris Aiken says that “In the two hours after an angry outburst, the chance of having a heart attack doubles“. One study found there was a three times higher risk of having a stroke from a blood clot to the brain or bleeding within the brain during the two hours after an angry outburst.
Weakens immune system – If people are just bursting out at others all the time, it is more likely that they are prone to sickness more than other people who keep calm. A study found that simply recalling an angry experience from the past caused a 6-hour dip in levels of the antibody immunoglobulin.
Effect your lungs – are you also among those who think that lungs are destroyed only by smoking? Well, then you are wrong, because if you are unaware then let me inform you that anger is also a contributing factor to hurt your lungs.
Can reduce life expectancy – It is a very common phenomenon that happy people live longer and hence the converse is also true that angry/stressed/frustrated people have a shorter life span comparatively.
Some of the other negative effects of anger on health are– Headache, digestion problems, Insomnia, Depression, Skin problems, Fatigue.
“Don’t teach your children to never be angry, teach them how to deal with it” – Preeti Shashank
You might wonder why I made a separate section for children, the reason is that we are witnessing a growing trend in anger issues among our children and we must handle it right now before it’s too late.
Today even a 2-year old gets extremely angry when any of their requests are turned down and this gradually develops into their habit as they grow up. Violent action movies, Psychotic characters are some of the aspects of present age entertainment that are subconsciously playing a part in the development of perception in these kids. The digital age has reduced social connectivity and teenagers and are facing constant struggles which result in frustration and anger issues.
Trauma, Anxiety, depression, ADHD, Learning Disorders, Family Dysfunctions, Peer problems, Medical Concerns are some of the factors that contribute to anger in children and teenagers.
Thought Shifting, Talking to them daily, Normalize Anger, Discover and Connect triggers to outburst, Stay aware of your behaviours, Model for anger management, Asking for professional help are some of the basic solutions that can be helpful.
“Try to manage your anger because people can’t manage their stupidity.” – Preeti Shashank
Being brutally honest, I want to put it as straight as I can be – Anyone can get rid of anger only if he/she wants too. Forgiveness is the best solution because generally Anger is instigated by the external environment involving other persons.
Some of the steps that can be followed for effective Anger Management are:
- Identify the trigger and Explore the Anger
- Evaluate Anger and Recognising warning signs
- Manage your thoughts and feelings
- Step away and focus on relaxation
- Don’t hold a grudge and think before you speak
- Create a calm down kit and take a timeout
- Identify possible solution
- Get some exercise and practice relaxation skills
- Talk to a friend and take help in dealing with problems.
- Recognise when you need professional help
Apart from that, there are several other methods which one can adopt as per their compatibility. I have mentioned some of the specific ways that may be more beneficial than the above list.
There is a long list of movies that are themed on Anger management, I can’t promise you that it will surely help you but you may extract something beneficial from them, so gloss over them once.
- Anger Management
- About Schmidt
- Arjun Reddy
It’s Enough from my side.
“God created anger to show your conflict not your hate.” – Preeti Shashank
To conclude I would remind a line from the first section “People are to be loved and things are to used”. I think keeping this in mind is more than enough to start jogging on the path of Anger management because generally, it is the loved ones who are most vulnerable to someone’s anger. Control your anger and you will have good relations in your life. One can begin by admitting that he/she has to go through an Anger Management course (if necessary).
Hope you liked it, and if not then please mention how can I improve (I will be thankful).
Share it to other people and be cooperative to someone who needs to undergo an Anger Management course.
Thank you for reading